How We Can Form True Friendship In Our Society or Online.
What is Friendship?
Friendship is a state of being emotionally attached to another person, resulting from feelings of affection. It is also a warm and intimate relationship with someone you admire and trust. Friendship provides a basic of source happiness,pleasure and companionship. Friendship is very crucial to adolescents because it helps to ease their transition from childhood to adulthood. It also provides opportunity for acquiring experiences which would aid in the process of developing self identity and enhance the ability to socialize, develop appropriate inter-personal communication and conflict management skills. It can be parent- child, teacher student-student student etc. kinds of friendship.
According to Denga and Akato (2004), the home is supposed to serve as a sanctuary for the psychological, psychological and economic health of the child. The parental love for children is expected to be an investment that should yield dividends for those within and outside the family. Children who receive teaching from parents hardly depart from virtues of a balanced life when they grow up. In order to produce children who will grow up to be socially, psychologically, spiritually and educationally healthy, parents need to establish a congruent relationship with their children. A parent-child relationship that is built on hostility is likely to generate vices and intense maladjustment.
Friendship is among the most important relationships we form in life. Through friendship, individuals come to know, trust and depend on each other for affection, acceptance and support. Our first and most
important relationship outside of the family are those we establish with friends in schools and out of school.
BASIS FOR FRIENDSHIP
True friendship involves;.
• Mutual respect, which means relating with others in ways that honour their personal values, decisions and choices,even if they differ from ours.
•Acceptance of people as they are and not always trying to change or make them live up to our own expectations.
•Honest communication: which is the sharing of truth and being able to talk about sensitive issues or negative behaviours without malice.
•Support: which involves being able to help each other consistently, and being able to depend upon someone.
IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDSHIP
Friendship is important because:
•Young people learn social skills
•It provides opportunity for young
people to share experiences and insights.
•Skills gained in articulating feelings
and thoughts will be helpful throughout life.
•It promotes self-esteem.
•It helps in building self-confidence.
•It provides companionship.
•It involves fun, sharing and caring.
•It promotes mutual respects.
communication skills are adopted.
•Ability to keep confidence
•Support at all times
Behaviours that could destroy friendship
•Disclosing secret or private information
•Betrayal of trust
Ways of Improving Friendship
•Having group activities
•Exchange of gifts
•Doing assignments together
•Giving support in times of trouble
•Making positive comments about each other
•Having fun together (Not sexual
A wise student avoids friendship with:
•A student who is always absent from schools.
•A student who often comes late to
•A student who loves smoking.
•A student who is wayward.
•A student who sneaks out of the school.
•A student who disregards school’s rules and regulations.
•A student who hates corrections.
•A student who steals.
•A student who gambles.
•A student who does not
respect his/her parents, teachers and elders.
•A student who speaks vulgar language.
•A student who has no vision.